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The Art Of Contentment

I received this from a certain Janice 7 years ago. She’s a member of one of the Toastmasters groups here in Cebu. She was really nice to accommodate my emails and answer my questions regarding Toastmasters, and during our exchange, sent me a few emails about self-improvement. Unfortunately, in the end, I had to retract from joining because their meeting days conflicted with my weekly schedule.

After about a month, she stopped sending emails. Though I have not sent her any reply of appreciation, I would really like to thank her for those few emails. They helped form how I see life today, and they were the best ones I’ve received from anyone. I’d like to share this one that I’ve just picked up recently. It’s about The Art Of Contentment. I don’t know who wrote this, but I’m sure it’ll help you out too.


The Art of Contentment

For most of us, being single will be more of a phase than a final destination. This is the best place to practice the art of contentment. Someday, I’m sure most of us will fall in love and get married. But the thing is, love will always be tested. Someone more handsome, beautiful, more charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. If you have not practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one.

Practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you take what life gives you, good or bad, you’re willing to see it through. It means you don’t walk away everytime things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance, understanding and a hundred different virtues that people in a hurry will never have. Being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus, allowing you to cherish every moment you spend with your chosen one.

The art of contentment means you wouldn’t mind if life had to make you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.

A Time to Know Yourself Better

Being single is a time of your life when you can get to know yourself better. You can pursue different interest and passions without having to ask another person’s approval. It is a phase when you can keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and see yourself become more than what you expect to be. Allow yourself to surprise you. Stop wasting precious energy trying to figure out why you’re still romantically unattached. It’s all in the mind. Take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do charity work and you will realize that you are not, and never for one moment, was alone. Try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other people. To be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you are. How do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when you don’t know who and what you really are?

A Choice Between Good and Best

Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad and absolutely good. Sometimes, it’s between good and best. Treat this stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who is best for you. Sometimes, you won’t hear music, or feel magic to know who’s best for you. The heart just knows and it doesn’t need any romantically charged scenario to decide on the matter. Trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to, not to the perfect partner, but to the most suitable partner for you. Being single is a phase of life that we need to be thankful for, because being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.

Take your time, the world will wait. Being married doesn’t guarantee that it will make your life happy. It doesn’t guarantee anything at all. Sometimes, it only brings two miserable people together only to make their life even more miserable. Without the right intention, the emotional maturity, financial security and of course, unwavering love, you’re better off unattached.

Living Life

Don’t put your life on hold for Mr. and Mrs. Right but don’t let it waste away with Mr. or Mrs. Wrong. Life is about things that you do and happen to you everyday. It’s not about the things that could have happened but never did, or things that you think would happen in the future. Live life now. Live it to the fullest and stop beating yourself up, trying to be perfect on a Saturday night date. Allow life to surprise you with its most wonderful blessings. Expect the unexpected.


One Sweet Day

I’ve lost people dear to me. And like songs that could make and break me, this song expresses best the sorrows and the joys of separation from passing on.

This song, the lyrics in the beginning, they express how I feel right now. I wish I had told him everything I wanted to say, but I know that he’s somewhere safe, and I just hope that I’ll be able to see him again. All I have to do now is to live on, and not let him down.

I won’t be afraid.
I’ll be all right if you help me.
I know you’re looking down from Heaven.
And I won’t let you down.
I’ll be everything you taught me.
And all that I know is that I’ll wait
patiently to see you in Heaven.

The slow start, the strong ending, it’s just so perfect on how it captures how similar we all go through during someone’s passing.

Sorry, Kuya. I never told you everything I wanted to say. You were a father and friend to me.

How do I look from up there?

Ang buwan ng Agosto ay ang Buwan ng Wikang Pambansa!

But this is in English..

I am a Filipino, but for the life of me, I am unable to write in the vernacular. I find it easier to express myself in English. But please don’t get me wrong, I consider Tagalog and Bisaya very poetic, and using them on a daily basis to express random nothings and outpouring of emotions is an art. Unfortunately though, when I use it to write, I fall short and feel like I bring it to shame. I’ve tried! Buuuut, the effect and the release of creative juices is just not as fulfilling as when I would speak in English.

I grew up having English, Tagalog, and Bisaya as my first language – at the same time! Seriously! As a kid, I had the hardest time expressing myself. For me, there was no distinction of language, just a medium wherewith I can express myself. When I wanted to say something, I say it, I don’t care if you don’t understand me. When someone speaks to me, I’ll understand, but I’ll reply with taglishaya. So I usually get these weird awkward pauses of people squinting their eyes trying to parse every word I am saying.

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This is still The Oaf

I am currently renovating my site: Selecting new themes and adjusting colors and whatnot.

While waiting, here is a photo of a couple of boobies, because everyone loves boobies.


Be Aware: Jeepney Pickpockets

EDIT: Originally posted on October 12, 2012. I modified this because the fall guy could be beside the victim.

I was searching for a specific modus operandi pickpockets might employ, however google only yielded some, if not vague, irrelevant articles. This might already be going around, someone might have already posted about this, the news must have already put it in their papers, but I can’t find any, and this is my attempt to shed some awareness to all.

I don’t really think it’s rampant, but it would help to be aware of it.

Please take note that I have not fallen victim to this, but I have come to know six of my friends who did.

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Getting Hit

As of this writing, I have received lots of hits and views from people with search key terms about Free Gift Certificates from Manila Bankers.. And if they ever did follow my advice into not believing in free things, I feel like I should give myself a pat on the back. Good job, Dru!

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However, if my information was undru untrue, I hope someone would inform me. I wouldn’t want to spread misinformation. But until then, I’ll stand by my belief that there is no such thing as free things. I do not believe in winning a draw I never joined in.


It has come to my attention that my theme is now retired.


So Dru! What do you plan on doing?! LOL

Nothing much. Just probably continue until I find a theme befitting the artistry of my writing, and where people can revel the beauty of my oafness. LOL

Did you just LOL? LOL

Yeah. Just trying it. Buuuuut it’s not working out. I still don’t think LOL is a good enough substitute for a hearty “hahaha!”.
Here’s an old post about it: For Sale: LOL.

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